Dr. Phil’s support system
We all know and love the famous T.V. doctor, Dr. Phil Mcgraw. His show is a staple of daytime television and he always brings us interesting and sometimes shocking stories. Dr. Phil shot to fame after getting a show handed to him by Oprah herself. On his first television appearance, his wife was there to support him. Since then, Robin has sat in the audience of every Dr. Phil show and decided to make it her goal to be by his side.
Robin also has another goal when it comes to her celebrity husband. She loves surprising him and even subjecting him to the odd practical joke. Thankfully, living in Hollywood and being famous has not stopped the couple from knowing how to have a good time. Robin finds a way now and then to surprise Dr. Phil and does it in a sophisticated manner. After enduring many of her jokes and surprises, Dr. Phil finally decided enough was enough.
Dr. Phil’s secret
Although they may seem perfect on television, the Mcgraws are only human and the way they are today came through years of effort and hard work. It may come as a surprise to many that Robin was not in fact Dr. Phil’s first wife. In 1970 Dr. Phil was married to a woman named Debbie Higgins until their ultimate divorce in 1973. The guy that gives on-screen advice had to deal with his own life problems throughout his first marriage. But what ended their marriage?
Debbie and Dr. Phil met in the year 1970. Phil was just 20 then. Debbie, who was homecoming queen and a cheerleader, was wooed by the handsome young man and they got along well. They were married young and divorced only a few years after their trip down the aisle. Years after their marriage ended when Dr. Phil shot to fame, Debbie put out a public statement alleging that Dr. Phil’s expectation for a wife were too high and that he insisted that she lose weight to maintain her figure.
The came Robin
After his divorce from Debbie, he started dating Robin Jameson. After three years, they exchanged vows and in 1979 Robin got pregnant with the couple’s first born son, Jay. The couple had one more son, Jordan, in 1986. Viewers of the Dr. Phil show know that Robin loves her children and grandchildren more than anything and believes that family is extremely important. Many may not believe that the straight talking Dr. Phil shares this view with his wife.
Jay’s best man
Dr. Phil has an extremely close relationship with his sons. His bond is so strong with them that when it was time for his eldest son Jay to walk down the aisle, Jay chose his father to be his best man. Jay’s wedding to Erica Dahn, who is a triplet and former Playboy Playmate, took place in their family home in California. While Dr. Phil sees himself as the head of his family, Robin just loves spending time with her family and surprising her husband who loves taking charge.
As we mentioned earlier in the article, Robin sits in the audience of every one of the Dr. Phil Show tapings. She loves to show support for Dr. Phil and is sometimes featured on the show and adds her commentary and opinions. While Robin is usually the one surprising Dr. Phil and taking a more backstage role in the relationship, Dr. Phil knew it was finally Robin’s turn to get her own surprise and be from and center stage.
Dr. Phil reveals his surprise
Robin’s time finally came when Dr. Phil decided to surprise her, on T.V.! Dr. Phil was in front of his studio audience as usual (with Robin there for the taping as well), something was a little bit off. Mcgraw, who is normally never at a loss for words stood in front of the camera without saying anything until he finally said, “My wife, Robin, is always the one who surprises me, but today, I’m finally getting her!”
Robin’s anniversary video
One of the surprises that Robin had given Dr. Phil was in celebration of their 39th wedding anniversary. As midnight rolled around the night before their anniversary, Robin blurted out to Phil– “It’s twelve o’clock, I have something I need to show you!” She showed Dr. Phil his Facebook page and played the video on the page she had been filming and planning long before their anniversary. She caught her husband completely off-guard with her surprise!
Robin’s love for Phi
Robin had been planning her surprise for her husband for nine days and Dr. Phil was very touched at her hard work and results. Robin had made a video of herself which showed her painting loving words about Dr. Phil and hearts on a canvas. “She has always been the queen of creative,” Dr. Phil said of his loving wife, “she created our home, she created our family, and she’s done it all from love.”
Wearing her veil
Robin is always thinking about her family member’s feelings and often does kind gestures that she knows will make them happy. In addition to her sweet gesture to her husband, another surprise of the video was that Robin was wearing her wedding veil which she walked down the aisle in exactly 39 years prior! The ever romantic Robin chose background music that was meaningful to both her and Dr. Phil and almost led Dr. Phil to break down in tears.
A meaningful song
What song could make the academic Dr. Phil nearly cry? Robin chose a very fitting song with Ed Sheeran’s Thinking Out Loud. Robin, who was 23 years-old when she married Dr. Phil chose the song because of the lyrics which go, “baby my heart could still fall as hard at 23.” Robin is so thoughtful, she even chose the perfect song that related to her relationship. Speaking of her relationship, Robin has been interviewed on many occasions regarding her successful relationship with her famous husband.
An abusive home
When we see Robin on television, she is usually smiling and has an energy of positivity about her. She seems so happy that it may come as a surprise that Robin was raised in an unhappy and abusive household. Robin, who grew up with an father who battled alcoholism, said, “I lived in uncertainty every day because of it and didn’t like the feeling. I made decisions early on that I was going to do everything I could to be in control of myself and my life.”
Her positive attitude
Robin made a conscious decision to control her actions and her life. She chose not to feel bad for herself and her troubled childhood, but rather to use her father’s bad choices as a life lesson of what not to do. She claims that her struggles actually helped her. She said the struggles, “taught me compassion and how to have a more accepting and loving spirit.” This is the attitude that allows her to maintain a healthy relationship with her husband.
Robin says that with her relationship with Dr. Phil she follows two rules that she claims keep her marriage to Dr. Phil alive and healthy. Many onlookers may say that her rules seem unreasonable but one could say they that have worked pretty well for over 40 years. Many Dr. Phil fans wanted to know Robin’s secrets for a healthy relationship and she revealed her rules and how her and Dr. Phil keep the spark of their relationship alive after many decades together.
No arguing here
Most people in long-term relationships will admit that they and their partner have fought, even if it is extremely rarely. However, this is apparently not the case for the Mcgraws as Robin has stated that she and Dr. Phil do not fight. She made it clear from the beginning of their relationship that she did not think it was necessary for them to ever argue. She said in an interview, “people cannot understand when we say we don’t fight. They go ‘that’s just not natural, you’re lying! Couples fight.’ … But we don’t.”
Dr Phil agree
She continued on to say, “We don’t fight and it’s because we had a conversation early on and I told him that it’s not natural for me to be in a house where people are screaming and yelling – my parents didn’t do it, I don’t do it and I don’t want to live in a house like that.” Robin said of her husband, “He got it and has never raised his voice around me. We don’t fight.”
How to keep the romance going
That is Robin’s first rule to a successful marriage. Even if people believe it is natural to fight, Robin disagrees and says that you can have a healthy relationship without ever raising your voice. Robin has a second and final rule which is related to keeping the romance going throughout the relationship. She claims this rule will ensure that the relationship or marriage is a loving one where both partners are supportive and thoughtful of the other.
Flirting is mandatory
Robin’s second rule may seem easy but it is not so obvious to most partners that have been together for a long period of time. She says it is important to, “Always flirt!” Robin says, “A piece of advice I’d tell women: learn what your husband considers flirting and learn what makes your husband happy.” Being the ever thoughtful wife that she is, Robin even took her own advice the same day she had Jay.
Putting Phil first
Many of Robin’s friends were bewildered by what she told her husband very shortly after she had just given birth. Robin told Phil that regardless of them now being parents and even if they were to have more children in the future, she would always put her husband first. She explained her reasoning by saying, “From that moment on, he could say to himself, ‘Oh good, I’m not going to be in second place. She’s not going to forget about our relationship.’”
What can I do for you?
Robin is not only a doting mother and wife but is in addition, a successful business person. Robin does not, however, get overwhelmed by the many things on her plate, but rather she tries to balance her priorities to the best of her abilities. She knows what is most important in her life and always asks Dr. Phil what he requires from her. She said in an interview that she asks Dr Phil, “what can I do for you? Tell me what you need from me. … I’ll do it.”
Robin had noted that it is vital for a good wife to not neglect her husband in place of other things. She thinks it is important to make sure your husband is always acknowledged and is kept informed about his wife’s life. She said, “Phillip always needs to know I’m proud of him and he loves to hear that I appreciate him.” Robin knows how strong her marriage is so she was surprised to hear rumors spread about her marriage in the media.
Filing a lawsuit
Dr. Phil’s job is in the public eye and as such, he is often judged and scrutinized by viewers and the media. Anyone who watches the Dr. Phil Show knows that he is not always sweet and sensitive when it comes to bestowing his advice upon his guests. As such, Dr. Phil has even created enemies who wish to engage in feuds with the television doctor. One tabloid magazine in particular got more than they bargained for after Phil and Robin filed a suit against them for $250 million.
No more lies
While Dr. Phil and his wife know they have a strong and healthy marriage, one magazine constantly published stories saying that this is not the case. In 2016, the couple decided to sue the National Enquirer after they had enough of the rumors and false stories that the magazine was publishing. The couple wanted to send a message that it was not ok for any media outlet to print falsities about their marriage. After a short time, it was clear that the magazine got the message.
Enough is enough
The Mcgraws sent their message loud and clear and Dr. Phil even got a statement in the Daily Mail saying,“Enough is enough, it’s time for them to own up.” ‘The National Enquirer’ quickly sought a way to settle the dispute without going to court. A statement was made saying, “The lawsuit has been resolved to the mutual satisfaction of all the parties. The parties have agreed to make no further comment about the lawsuit or its resolution.”
Don’t insult my wife
Just as Robin cares deeply for her husband and makes sure he has everything he needs from her, Phil does the same for Robin. Through the whole ”Nation Enquirer” ordeal, Dr. Phil strongly defended his wife and made sure she would not be lied about in the press. He stated, “As a member of the media, I have a deep respect for the First Amendment. But it does not protect these people who knowingly print lies for money, particularly lies about my wife.”
Bad skin care
While Dr. Phil strongly defended his wife from tabloid rumors, it did not put an end to Robin’s name being criticized in the press. However, when it happened again, it was not in regards to her marriage but rather, regarding a skin care company who used Robin’s name without her approval. Robin was totally unaware of the company until she began to receive harshly worded letters related to the products that she did not even know existed.
Defending his wife
Dr. Phil defended his wife yet again, and this time on his show. He stood in front of his audience and said, “We’re chasing these people, and we’re not going to stop until we find them.” He continued, “To hear that there are people out there using our marriage and my name and image to sell lotion and creams that I have absolutely nothing to do with really drives me crazy.” Robin, who had her own lifestyle brand, knew that this company was very intentional with the use of her name.
Cindi was badly injured and she was only given a 30% chance to live by her doctors at the time. Thankfully, Cindi survived with the odds against her and did not let her burns stop her. In an interview with Larry King in 2005, Dr. Phil called Cindi a, “True hero” and said, “It doesn’t surprise me that she has handled this horrible tragedy like she has because she’s always been there for everyone else.”
Not as tough as he seems
While Dr. Phil’s television personality may seem pretty harsh and straightforward, it does not translate into his relationship with Robin. This was made very clear by Dr. Phil when he sent a sweet message to Robin over twitter for their wedding anniversary. He tweeted, “40 loving years and counting with the same sweet girl I met at 19!! Here’s to 40 more. I love you, Phillip.” Along with the tweet, he attached a lovely montage of photos and video clips of him and his wife.
A million bucks
Dr. Phil is such a romantic when it comes to his wife that he even remembers what she wore that first moment her laid eyes on her. He recalled, “She had on baggy shorts, and a T-shirt and [her] hair was sticking up everywhere – and she looked like a million bucks to me.” He continued by explaining that he realized he wanted to marry her when he knew he respected her. He said of his wife, “When she cuts her finger, I bleed red; when she rejoices, my heart jumps.”
The surprise is here
While Robin is usually the one to surprise her husband, Dr. Phil decided to use Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to surprise her for a change! He proudly announced in front of his live and television audience, “I’m finally getting her!” Robin, who is usually sitting in the audience was cheered on by fans to get up on the stage beside Dr. Phil. She did not understand what was happening and definitely could not have prepared for the surprise Dr. Phil was about to give her.
“I can’t beleive it”
Dr. Phil explained to his wife and audience, “So, as my Valentine’s Day gift to her, I talked to her number one favorite artist and band of all time.” Now that Robin knew what was happening, her excitement grew and she said, “I can’t believe it, I’m in shock.” Robin was so happy and thrilled that she hugged Dr. Phil and needed him for support to keep herself standing up. Dr. Phil had truly surprised her.
To excited to speak
Robin was so overwhelmed it looked as though she might fall over from happiness. Dr. Phil kept holding on to her as the surprise was about to be revealed to the audience. At this point she was screaming she was so excited and the audience was cheering her on even though they did not yet know what the big surprise was. When producers finally gave Dr. Phil the go ahead, he continued on in revealing the big surprise.
Her favorite artist
Dr. Phil continued with his big announcement, “I talked to her number one favorite artist and band of all time to make an impromptu appearance today, just for her. So without further ado, after ten years of asking, let me introduce the hottest band tearing up the charts from Los Angeles to Sydney, Australia,” There was a long dramatic pause that kept the audience on the edge of their seats before the band was revealed to be…
The perfect Valentine’s Day
Love was truly in the air as Jordan and Marissa sang together with Robin looking on and smiling. While they were singing, the lights in the studio were dimmed and a romantic atmosphere was created. After the performance was finished, Dr. Phil asked his audience, “Did we get her or did we get her? I think we got her!” He finally got his wife back with a surprise that was over 40 years in the making.