Putting Michelle Obama first
If you haven’t figured it out by now, Michelle Obama is actually a big fan of marriage counseling. She told Jimmy Fallon it was “a turning point” and that it helped her “learn how to fill myself up and how to put myself higher on my priority list.”
This goes hand-in-hand with not focusing entirely on her husband’s needs and career. Counseling helped Michelle realize that if she never filled herself up with her own happiness, she wouldn’t have anything left.
The struggle continues
Most people think of counseling as a one-time fix. They see a relationship as damaged or even broken and look to counseling to make it whole again.
However, Michelle Obama was quite blunt when speaking to Jimmy Fallon. She said, “Even the best marriages require work” and that some days will be better than others. She even went so far as to say, “If you’re married for 50 years and 10 of them are horrible, you’re doing really good.”
Ultimately, Michelle helps highlight that counseling is merely one way to work on communicating needs to a partner. But continuing to communicate in a way that makes each other happy is the work of a lifetime for any successful marriage.
“I know that people look to me and Barack as the ideal relationship,” Michelle told Oprah. “I know there’s #RelationshipGoals out there. But whoa, people, slow down — marriage is hard!”