Kevin Costner is one of the most famous and legendary actors of his generation. Well known throughout the world for his iconic roles in movies such as Waterworld, Dances with Wolves, and Field of Dreams, he has long been a fan favorite and national treasure.
However, despite being loved by critics and fans alike, Costner has seen his fair share of heartache when it comes to love in his personal life.
After a lifetime of romantic ups and downs, it seems that Costner has finally found his one true love.
Let’s take a look back at Costner’s incredible true story.
As well as discovering his love for acting, Costner also developed a passion of a very different nature during his college years.
In 1975, he met a fellow college student, Cindy Silva, and the two quickly hit it off. Soon enough, they had started dating and ended up falling in love.
Loved up with Silva at the age of 20, Costner was convinced that he had found his one true love already—but he had no idea of the turmoil that was ahead of him.
Costner graduated from California State University, Fullerton in 1978 with a BA in marketing and finance, but was no longer interested in pursuing a career in finance—he was committed to proving his chops as a performer.
However, as any aspiring actor knows, a career in showbiz is not always a stable one. Costner struggled for many years trying to find acting work, and supplemented his income with small jobs such as working as a carpenter and a gofer for Raleigh Studios.
But other areas of Costner’s life kept his path feeling more stable—at least for now
Despite the uncertainty of the career ahead of him, Costner received a great amount of support from his girlfriend Cindy Silva, who provided a base of stability and normality in contrast to the topsy-turvy world of showbiz.
In 1978, after three years of dating, Costner and Silva tied the knot. “She was beautiful, she was sweet, she was smarter than me,” Costner gushed to People magazine. “She represented everything about women that I like.”
Though his career was somewhat of a wild card, his home life was something he could always rely on—or so he thought.
Kevin Costner may have struggled somewhat at the beginning of his career, but his personal life was going from strength to strength.
After marrying Cindy Silva in 1978, the couple welcomed three children over the years: daughters Annie and Lily, and son Joe.
“Being a dad is the most important thing in my life,” Costner said to Closer Weekly.
Even before his career had really taken off, Costner’s dedication to filling his life with loving relationships was clear for all to see.
On the Way
Sure enough, Costner’s performance in Silverado proved to really put him on the map and get noticed within the world of Hollywood.
In 1987 he stared in the movie The Untouchables, alongside stars such as Sean Connery and Robert De Niro. He won critical acclaim for his performance and truly began to make a name for himself.
That same year, he co-starred with Sean Young in the hit thriller No Way Out.
Costner’s career was on the up, but it was in the world of romance that he would really make his name—in more ways than one.
Obviously, going through a personal challenge in your life such as a divorce, can have an effect on your professional career decisions and performance.
This could have been the reason behind Costner’s career taking a bit of a dip, but there were other factors that may have been at play.
Around this time, rumors were flying around about a romance between Costner and fellow Hollywood darling Halle Berry.
The pair never confirmed whether they dated or not, but something like that could certainly distract you a little from your focus.
As Kevin Costner continued to settle into the single life, the tabloids continued to link him to a host of other Hollywood stars of the day.
He was also rumored to be stepping out with Scarface and Dangerous Minds star Michelle Pfeiffer. In fact, the two were in talks to star in a romantic comedy together, but it seemed the movie never came to fruition
Behind the scenes, we don’t really know what went on between the two stars.
Despite all the rumors flying around about Costner’s romantic life following his divorce, the famously family-oriented star did not let the media frenzy affect him.
In fact, despite the flurry of interest in linking the star with various women, the star was quietly establishing a new relationship out of the spotlight.
Fresh from the heartbreak of his divorce, he settled down with businesswoman Bridget Rooney, and in 1996 the two of them welcomed a son, Liam.
“Kevin is very romantic and tender,” Rooney said. “He really is Mr. Perfect.”
Looking for Love
Whether Costner did actually ever date Courteney Cox or not, is a mystery we may perhaps never know the answer to. The pair remained tight-lipped about the nature of their relationship, and it wasn’t long before Cox was settling down with and marrying fellow 3,000 Miles to Graceland star David Arquette.
Undaunted, Costner continued his search for love, striking up a friendship and relationship with event organizer Birgit Cunningham.
The two dated for four years, and remain friends to this day—with Cunningham even asking Costner for relationship advice after a subsequent breakup.
After a string of relationships and rumored dalliances, a lesser man than Costner might have felt like giving up on love. It can be exhausting meeting people continuously, only to have your hopes dashed when it doesn’t work out.
However, in 1996, it seemed that Costner had settled down for good when he dated and eventually moved in with supermodel Elle Macpherson.
“I feel I have met my equal with this beautiful, talented, funny and lovely person,” Costner was quoted as saying.
Unfortunately however, the couple split up after less than a year.
After many years of seemingly practicing serial monogamy, it was clear that things were not really working out for Kevin Costner in the romantic stakes.
Despite the fact that he had an illustrious movie career and reputation as a talented actor and filmmaker, it seemed that in his personal life he had a little work to do on himself before performing the role of romantic lead in reality.
For that reason, in the late nineties it seemed that Costner took a step away from the dating scene, possibly preferring to concentrate on having some time alone.
Love of My Life
After many years concentrating on himself, and being a single dad to his beloved children, Costner eventually found love once again—with model and handbag designer Christine Baumgartner.
As he was so out of practice with the dating scene, Costner revealed that he made some terrible faux pas while trying to woo her.
“We exchanged numbers, and I told her that I would—did she mind if I called her in two weeks. I did not realize that was like an insult to a woman,” Costner recalled to People magazine.
Tying the Knot
Despite the Hollywood megastar’s lack of awareness when it came to dating, it clearly didn’t stand too much in their way—as the two eventually tied the knot after four years of dating.
Having learnt so much from his first marriage, Costner was determined to get it right this time around.
“Maybe it’s the ability to say you’re sorry,” Costner said to Parade magazine about the secret to a happy marriage. “If you’re willing to tell somebody that you love them, are you also willing to say you’re sorry? You need to, even when you think you’re in the right.”
After tying the knot with Baumgartner, you might think that Costner would be happy to be a husband again, but not necessarily thinking about having any more children. After all, he already had four!
However, he revealed that Baumgartner was so set on having children, that it was a total deal breaker for her. Today the couple have three children together—Cayden Wyatt, Hayes Logan and Grace Avery.
When I pray, that’s what I pray for,” Costner revealed to Parade magazine about being an older parent. “That I be the one who raises Grace, Hayes, and Cayden.”
And this wasn’t the first time that Kevin Costner had spoken publicly about his love for his family.
Despite his long and mega successful career, for Costner the ultimate measure of success has always been the same—a happy home life with a full and loving family.
“I don’t have to balance,” he said to Zoomer magazine. “They are the most important… as a provider, I have to go to work. (But) my great joy is them.”
Even though he is a Hollywood legend and beloved around the world, for Costner the most important love starts right at home.